How To Achieve An Amicable Divorce

Divorce is hard to do, it comes with expected and unexpected challenges that can be hard to navigate.

The main goal for most divorcing couples is to successfully get through the divorce as quickly and amicably as possible.

The following excerpt highlights five simple tips to help you achieve a more peaceful divorce.

1. Get Support

It’s important to remember that no matter how isolated you may feel, you are not alone.

Recognise that there are sources of divorce support that you can leverage to help you sort through the menagerie of feelings you’re experiencing and learn how to deal with them in a constructive way.

When you can control your emotions, you will be better prepared to approach divorce negotiations with a calm, level head.

2. Avoid the Blame Game

There are always two sides to every story, but it can be tough to see that when you’re in the midst of a messy and emotionally charged divorce.

One of the most important steps in how to get through your divorce peacefully is to step back and take ownership for whatever part you had in the demise of the marriage.

When both spouses own up to their own shortcomings and take responsibility for their actions, there is less blame and more open, honest communication.

3. Pick Your Battles

If you’re looking to drag your divorce out for months or even years, then by all means, fight over every little thing.

But if you want to get through divorce peacefully, you’re going to have to learn to pick your battles.

Take the time to figure out what’s most important to you — what your wants, needs and non-negotiables are — before you discuss them with your spouse. That way, you’ll have the clarity to tackle negotiations in a more peaceful, focused manner.

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4. Choose a More Peaceful Divorce Option

When it comes to divorce, you’ve got plenty of choices.

You can litigate and battle it out in court. If you have a simple case, you can try to do it yourself. You can collaborate and pay half a dozen people to intervene in the process. Or you can mediate.

Take the time up front to do your homework and research all of the available options. Then, choose the one that’s most likely to keep your divorce as peaceful as possible.

5. Keep An Eye On The Big Picture

The last tip on how to divorce peacefully is staying focused on the big picture.

The decisions you make now will affect you and your children for years to come, so don’t get bogged down in fighting over semantics or trying to be right.

Nobody wins in divorce, but if you focus on what’s most important, like the kids and your future, instead of the painful past, you have a much better chance of achieving a settlement you can both feel comfortable with.

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Resources:

Dillion C, Dillion J 2014, ‘5 Tips for Divorcing Peacefully’, Huffington Post, 5 November, viewed 12 April 2018. https://www.huffingtonpost.com/cheryl-and-joe-dillon/5-tips-for-divorcing-peacefully_b_6103306.html